Mandatory Parenting Classes Can Help to Improve Your Family’s Lives

Filed in Child Care Training

At many stages in parenting there are classes available. In some cases they are pretty much mandatory, while others completely voluntary. The key point is that you may find more information on doing the most important thing in life, raising the next generation to better than what you have so they might even take their next generation to greater levels yet. In a nutshell, it’s all about passing it on with improvements.

Everything you do has impact on your children’s lives. It’s hard to see most of the results immediately, though in the end you will. Whatever you can do now to see that end better, is well worth it. Parenting classes can definitely give you more focused input that improves the final results years later.

Check out more information at Terrific Parenting where you can find articles about mandatory parenting classes and other useful parenting information.

Parenting Tips – How to Get Your Teen to Open Up to You

Filed in Parenting, Tips

By Jerry Standefer

Sometimes a teenager seems that they are far away on another planet when you try to talk to them. Sometimes we want to sneak around or spy on them to get information from them, but using these tactics only pushes them further away, there is a better way. Getting your teen to talk to you can be a difficult task especially if you have never tried to have an open relationship with them.

Here are a few parenting tips, how to get your teen to open up to you:

• Find some common interest that you both might have. This will open up a channel so you can start talking about something they like, not what you like. You could talk a music they like that you also might enjoy.
•Listen to what your teen is telling you, even though you might not like what you hear. Try not to be judgmental when listening to your teenager. Your teen will feel more likely to open up to you. If you do not approve of something they are doing or they are talking about, be tactful with the use of soft language, not losing your temper.
•Try to set up a weekly dinner where the whole family can attend. This helps to bring you closer together while opening up lines of communication.
•Sports can break barriers between your teenager and you by attending sporting events or doing sports together they will loosen up and actually like spending time with you.
•Setting up a specific time each week to do something with your teen can be very rewarding as they will start to look forward to it every week.
•Each teenager is different but as you use these tips you will notice them loosening up making it easier for them to talk to you, even discussing their problems with you. Teenagers are complicated to get to know as parents sometimes, but using theses simple tips can make the difference between fighting with them and loving them.

Jerry Standefer is a parent who raised teenagers, his ambition has been to help other parents who might need guidance raising their teens. Visit Jerry’s website Parenting Today’s Teenagers [http://parenting-todays-teenager.com/] and sign up for his free report about raising teenagers. His friend Norbert Georget has written a book called “No-Nonsense Parenting for Today’s Teenager” which I highly recommend!

Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/5511960

See Also Parenting Articles by Dr. Randy Cale at www.TerrificParenting.com

Ways to Get Kids to Listen to Rules : Parenting Tips

Filed in Parenting, Tips

A 2 minutes and 16 seconds video clip about Ways to Get Kids to Listen to Rules : Parenting Tips.

Enjoy Watching!

See Also Parenting Articles by Dr. Randy Cale at www.TerrificParenting.com

Relationship Advice For Step Parents, Stepmoms and Stepchildren – The Fundamental Thing to Consider

Filed in Parenting, Relationships Advice

By Joan Sarin

Here’s some relationship advice for stepmoms, stepchildren, and stepdads that is fundamental to all relationships, actually. The tip is this: if you want to grow a bond of love that lasts in the long run, start with respect. All around.

I recently heard from a new stepfamily which will now consist of eight children (of a variety of ages including several teens) and two parents all under one roof. Actually, I grew up in a family of this size, as there were eight kids in my biological family. Yet there are a host of significant differences. Our family gradually added a child at a time, and systems were in place to absorb additional children as they came. And when problems occurred (as they certainly did), we had a natural bond of love we could depend upon. That love wasn’t questioned when arguments got heated.

As I mused over what advice to give this new family, I recognized that although they have strong bonding within each side, it is too much to expect a natural love to exist between the two family units that are merging. It was a bit of a shock to realize that the love we took for granted in our biological family is actually a luxury for a new stepfamily.

Yet in this new stepfamily, suddenly, bedrooms need to be shared, bathroom time will be at a premium, and there are many lifestyle differences that have the potential of clashing: how much is each person expected to help? What are the standards for cleanliness? What communication styles are acceptable? The list goes on and on…

So after some thought, I decided that there’s one place to start that would make the biggest difference of all. It will have far more impact than starting with specific rules about how to share bathrooms or who does the dishes. And that would be for the parents to communicate and create an atmosphere in which each person feels respected. From this foundation, rules and systems will be much more easily established – and followed. Here are some guidelines:

Consider that every person in the family, from a toddler to a teenager to a parent, deserves to be treated with the respect and dignity deserved by a human being. Every single family member is going through major changes during this time of transition.

Listening to another is one of the greatest gifts you can give him or her. Just being heard will help each person in the family to get past the feeling of being powerless and help them to work through their feelings about the changes in the family composition.

It is not to be expected that each member of the new family will love each other member (in fact, it’s possible that some won’t even like each other). But it is to be expected that each one treats each other with respect.
How do we show respect? By noticing our tone of voice and assuring it is respectful, by not interrupting, by listening to the other’s words and needs, by eye contact, and by our actions.

I would suggest that any new stepfamily begin with a meeting or some kind of ritual in which each person shares what’s most important to him or her during the transition, and that it is begun by the parents with a discussion of the importance of respect. The parents can go a long way toward setting an atmosphere of respect by treating the children on both sides with respect, dignity and understanding.

If each person feels that he or she is respected, the likelihood of that person treating the others with respect goes up dramatically! So, in a new stepfamily, since it’s too much to ask for everyone to be “one big happy family” or “everyone love one another” – we can begin with the fundamental quality of respect. Out of that, harmony and bonding are much likelier to take hold.

Joan Sarin, M.S. is now a master coach with Stepfamily Foundation. Before that, she was a stepmom for fifteen years, and managed to make most of the classic mistakes made by stepfamilies. In her blog, [http://www.ConfessionsOfaStepmom.com], she tells how you can learn to avoid those mistakes.

Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/2868317

See Also Parenting Articles by Dr. Randy Cale at www.TerrificParenting.com