by Beverleigh H Piepers
You have finally found someone who you really like a lot and you can really see this relationship developing into something “really special”. Then the day comes when you introduce your new love interest to your parents… and they tell you they don’t like your new love partner. Now, what do you do?
Your first reaction is probably going to be “why?”. This is a legitimate question, and one only your parents can answer, so don’t try to read too much into it and don’t over-analyze it. Above all, don’t take it personally… as much as you want to. One of the worst steps you can take is to develop an attitude about what the problem might be. Let your parents tell you… don’t try to second guess it.
You first need to sit down with your parents (without your partner present), and simply ask what it is they don’t like about the new person in your life. You need to ask this calmly, without even a hint of attitude in your voice. And pick an appropriate time to do it. Make sure everyone is in a relaxed setting, without anyone else around. This way, they will feel comfortable to talk freely.
Actually listen to what they have to say. In your parents eyes, their reasoning makes perfect sense. It might not be accurate to you, but to them it is. After all, they are only looking out after the well-being of their child. They feel they are doing what is right for you. If their opinion is wrong, then it is up to you to convince them of that. Above all, let them speak… don’t argue.
Unless their concern is something obvious like a drug problem or a criminal record, then it could be your parents have formed the wrong perception of your new partner. After all, they don’t know your partner like you do. Many times, parents just have to get to know someone in order to accept them. In the eyes of some parents, no one will ever be good enough for their child. If this person is really special to you, then you need to show the reasoning behind this to your parents.
Whatever you do, don’t push your opinion. They need to see your partner in the same light, so get everyone together. Let them see for themselves how your new partner treats you. Your parents need to see how your partner acts around you and how you act around your partner. Once they see you really do care about this person, and that they were wrong about their opinion, they will accept your new partner for who they are.
Learn about yourself… what emotions at the heart of any problems you are experiencing? Maybe you need to get ahold of what you are really telling yourself… have a look at your beliefs.
For nearly 25 years Beverleigh Piepers has searched for and found the principles to help you get to the root causes of your crisis.
The solution is not in the endless volumes of information you find across the internet, or the advice your friends give… it’s in yourself; the thoughts that make you who you are.
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